Speed Dating

The long awaited speed dating post....

So a while back a friend sent me a link to a speed dating for gay men thing happening in DC. At the time, I was crushing on a guy (Jeff L.) so i didn't think I'd want to go. Then after I realized that he didn't really want to date me (and nowadays I think he doesn't really want to be friends either), I decided it would be fun to try speed dating. So I made two friends go with me who I know from work. I actually had a good time, which for some reason I didn't think I would, plus a little bout of crazy that I had.

Eleven people (including myself) showed up to this thing, which limited my chances a bit, being that if you subtract myself, subtract my two friends, and subtract the one other guy I happened to know, i had seven possibilities. The dates lasted about 4 minutes each.

Date One: an older doctor from Baltimore. I think he was around 40, but I don't recall entirely. He was soooo difficult to talk to. It was like pulling teeth. There was a lot of stifled conversation that I was thinking "look, if you want us to talk at all, you need to give me enough info for a follow-up question" Afterwards, I decided this was a definate no for me.

Date Two: Everett. A Texan. We immediately started talking about living in the South and his accent, which I picked out within three words. He was actually the only one I felt some type of connection with at this thing.

Date Three: teacher guy from Alexandria. Nice enough guy, but he was a little difficult to talk to, but not as bad as the dr. This was the only other person I said no to.

Date Four: George- a guy from Cyprus who was incredibly well educated. Nice enough guy, but there was a little bit of a language barrier. Whenever there is a language barrier my slightly dry and sarcastic sense of humor never goes over well, which I find to be incredibly disappointing.

Date Five: Jason- a young guy who started off the conversation with he was hung over all day from drinking last night. Nice enough guy, but was a little too partier I think.

Date Six: Jerry- a 41 y/o actor guy who said this was his third speed dating event. He was actually a really nice guy. I could hang out with him, but probably not date him

Date Seven: Philipino young guy. He was like 25 y/o, just graduated from college and a bit too young acting for me.

So I left there thinking at most I really made one possible connection, although most of the guys I'd be friends with and have no problem. So we go online and put who we would meet and who we wouldn't meet. THen it tells us who said yes to us (not just the matches). So I got two people, Jerry- the actor and the teacher guy (who I didn't say yes to). Through my friends that went, we know everyone except Everett signed on and did this process (we're just not sure about him b/c he may not have listed any of us on his yes card). Then my friends got so many more yesses than me that I completely got upset and jealous and started acting crazy. Even though I knew I didn't have the interest in these guys, I just wanted to be wanted and it hurt knowing that everyone else did better than I did. But I'd still probably do speed dating again. It was a good time.

On a separate boy note: I have finally proven my gaydar right on a boy. THis guy who i was seriously crushing on like 2 years ago, I finally got confirmation today that he is gay. All those people who said i was wrong were just hatin'. Also later this week I am going to California for the ASHE COnference, so there may not be many posts this week.

Political Jaunt

Sorry to my fans who have wanted more posts, work has made me actually work lately.. very upsetting. Last night was speed dating... I am waiting to post on that when results go up so you can have the entire story... So for today: politics with the election coming up...

1. Since when do Republicans get to attack Democrats on women's issues? George Allen (R-assville) has new commercials out saying that Jim Webb said that the tailhook scandal of the 90's was a witchhunt....Are Republicans allowed to say that democrats aren't allowed to say the same things they did? Just because George Allen didn't go on record about tailhook, doesn't mean he thought any differently.... The GOP is not the party of women's issues, unless women's issues are to go back to being pregnant and barefoot in the kitchen and serve her man and hope that he only hits her when she deserves it.

2. What kind of creep wad is Rush Limbaugh? What right does he have to talk about Michael J Fox's medical condition. He isn't Mel Martinez (R-FL) or Bill Frist (R-FL) declaring that a brain dead woman in the video is alive and well despite what actualy doctors say (yes, i know frist is a certified dr, but he also tortures cats and diagnoses through doctored videos). BUt to say that Parkinsons isn't affecting MJF that way is ludicrus... Maybe the oxycontin that he's addicted to is causing problems with his eyesight and judgment on when to keep his fat mouth shut....I'm just waiting for Richard Simmons to do sweatin' to the oldies with that fat lard ass.

3. Yet again, it looks like my money is the downfall of candidates. I sent money to two people this election cycle. Ned Lamont, who won in the primary over Joe Lieberman, but seems doomed to failure in the general election. and Angie Pacchione, who isn't gaining ground on Marilyn Musgrave even though Tom Feeney in Florida is only ahead by two points on some guy no one has ever seen. Oh well, I'll stop giving money then.

That's all for today!

Big Head Strikes Again

So, there's this guy in the program (who me and a friend who has only seen him from a distance calls Big Head) I'm in who back in like January I crushed on for three weeks (per my usual trend) then moved on. But he's made it completely awkward for me ever since. My belief is that you cannot get a bigger compliment than someone saying I think you're such a great person that I'm interested in your romantically. And if you're not interested you should say i'm flattered but don't see you that way and move on. Instead he made me feel like an outcast and created awkward situation after situation with the group of friends we have in common. The most recent was a drinking game where we played quarters for hours and he didn't have the decency to have even a brief conversation with me. So I'm done...

Then he emails one of his closer friends all upset that he's not included in the student social organization I'm on the board of. So I got tired of the whinyness and the bratiness and responded to the person that forwarded his email that we've had exactly three events. 1. had an evite he was put on, which i know since i sent it. 2. he showed up to and 3. was open to the whole school so he could've come if he wanted. I will not apologize for him not showing up to things and then act like he needs a special invitation. So as I thought about this, I came to the conclusion that he's more upset about the group of friends not being out with him as much as they used to.

No fault to the friends, but in most cases I am the event planner who tries to put people together. And so be it if I "forget," however convienent it is to invite someone who makes it awkward for me and I don't really like then so be it. I will not apologize for not hanging out with people who annoy me. And by extension my friends haven't hung out with him that much because I don't invite him to events. I guess that's what happens when you cross me. I have my ways to force people out and have no issues with using them. Big head is more than welcome to come to any student organization run events, but I'll be damned if I ever invite him out socially.

So in short: I win.

Philly review

So this past weekend I took a well deserved whirlwind trip to Philly. I went once last year and had a decent time, but this year I had a fantastic time!!!!!! I completely want to go back and the possibility of living there after I graduate has jumped up on the future cities list to number 2 on the East Coast.

So I take the Chinatown bus up to Philly on Saturday and successfully navigate a new way of transportation. The ride up there was fine. I read the entire time for fun!!!! Take that doctoral program. My book was about gay relationships not financial aid policy or retention.

DP met me at the bus station and we dropped my stuff at the hotel. Then we had lunch/dinner at Rittenhouse Square (apparently the biggest and juiciest burgers in the country- the audacity of some claims ;) Then we walked around the city and saw the sites (like Camden, NJ, Old City, etc). I also stopped by the Irish Pub where I hustled Triple X in darts and took some pics of it to remind him how poorly he did at it.

Then that night we went out on Philly in the gayborhood. Started off at Tavern on Carmac.. not bad. IT was a piano bar on the bottom section, which was a nice change except we didn't know any of the songs (I think i prefer showtunes at JR's) And the bartender with the tamborine was kind of annoying as well. Upstairs was a little dance floor that had some cute nerdy guys there. Why doesn't dc have a nerd bar? that would be hot.

Next stop was 12th air command, a run down version of Halo. Everyone was really friendly though. We met Kevin there, a music teacher at a local school who is also a member of the gay chorus. He says he'll be down in february so we all might hang out again. WHen I went to the bathroom this one boy was totally checking me out as well... ahhhh bathroom romances... nothing more romantic. Then this drunk boy walked by and told me I was really cute--- alcohol is a truth serum right?

Next stop: Bump- was ok... nothing memorable to report, excpet it was very Orange.

Next stop: woody's- their version of Cobalt. with a dance floor and all that. Danced the night away. And this old grandma looking woman (think the old woman on the movie 54) was dancing the night away... It was great. I liked the mixed crowds of gays and straights men and women.

Next stop: Pure- This is their after hours bar. Phillys alcohol laws are interesting. After two you can't buy alcohol but some bars open til like 3 in which members are permitted to buy drinks. So other people have to get a member to order a drink and touch your money on its way to the bartender. Interesting experience.

Later- location undisclosed: I mayhaps broke my vow. And it mayhaps have been with two guys at once, then I went with one of them later. Who was real nice and got his number and all that. A few other shenanigans but none worth reporting in the print.

All in all I loved philly, the guys loved me, and there was no dc attitude.

new size

I am excited to announce that I am on the next hole down in my belt as of Tuesday!!!!!!! Very exciting.

some political ramblings

In honor of me getting over being crazy this week, I thought I'd talk about some politics- my real passion. I got my absentee ballot yesterday so I look forward to voting over the next two/ three days.

Congressman Pedophile: I can hardly believe that the Republicans are trying to spin this as the democrats are playing politics with this. 1. of course they are, they are the other side. 2. The GOP leadership still let a child predator prey for children. Seriously this is like a sex ring. And I love seeing how this could swing even more seats to the dems

George Allen: It seems that there is always one campaign which is so ass backwards that the individual deserves to lose based on stupidity. In 2002, there was Kathleen Kennedy Townsend (D) running for governor of Maryland, who spoke like George Bush and often got the name of the place she was at incorrect. She lost to Bob Ehrlich. In 2004, there was Senator Bunning (R-KY) who apparently went senile during the campaign and got caught lying about some pretty small stuff. He almost lost that race by 51-49. However, Kentuckians apparently would rather have a mentally ill man serve the senate than a democrat. Now we have George Allen (R-VA) who step after step in the last month has had gaffe after gaffe. Macaca, I'm Jewish, and now stock options. Seriously, I know Virginians love them some racists, but its ridiculous to send a person so out of touch with the mainstream and morality to the Senate. At least his presidential career is over...

When I finish my ballot, I will let you all know how i voted.... (straight dem ticket anyone?)

On-going crazy

So I had a realization yesterday late afternoon. Boy from two posts ago isn't interested in me romantically and probably wants to be just friends. So I'm a little deflated and depressed. Just once (in a while) I'd like a guy (other than the freaks and creeps that I usually get) to be interested in more than friends. The best friend in romantic comedies really does get the short end of the stick and I'm tired of being role #2. So of course, I'm PMSing today about it. And of course, my initial reactions are to retreat into solitude. And yes, I say things I know I won't mean in a couple weeks like the phrase I said to Ruthie yesterday: "In truth, I'm not looking for new friends. I've got a good number of great quality friends already. I just don't have the energy to develop another one." And yes, before you all start yelling at me for it, I know I don't really mean that and its great to have new friends... but as nice as the other person is and as nicely as they put it, rejection is still rejection and it kind of hurts.

Crazy

OK, so I was a little crazy in that last post. It happens and I'll try to work on it in the future. I took my medication today it seems :)

Why am I so socially inept?

So, on one hand, I'm so very proud of myself. On the other hand, I am soo completely lost. I think I asked a boy out on a date (at least I thought it was clear it was, but I don't really know if he does). I haven't gone all crazy in front of him yet (unless he's reading this blog---- then I claim the 5th amendment, which says I cannot be incriminated for anything in my blog). Now granted, I've gone crazy in front of some select friends, who I am sure want me to stop discussing the subject. The crazy I refer to is the whole wanting to define something right away and know where I stand (the grayness of life can be confusing and scary sometimes). But on the other hand I've done well in working on my past crazinesses like going all full of despair when I don't hear back from him within a 24 hour period, or crushing so hard that I'm head over heels in a days time period. The other underlying principle in this is that this would be the first time since I started my whole rebirth and reevaluation of life that I started in January that I've actually pursued a boy and I am worried what rejection might do to my psyche (yes, yes, I'm overly dramatic- as I know I'll be sad for a day or two and then move on), but I also think proper development might do wonders for my self-esteem, which has improved greatly. Yet, the weight of six years single still can throw you through a loop.

So the latest is that we might be having lunch again this week. I was kind of hoping for dinner, as it seems more dateish, but other people tell me that lunches can be perfectly acceptable dates. I guess that's the problem when you base your concept of good relationships on romantic comedies where good dates are always at night, had a dinner component, a walk around a major metropolitan area, then a good night's kiss on somebody's front stoop.

So wish me luck as I try to figure out if this boy might actually be interested in me romantically, or just as friends. I am sure there will be plenty of blogs to write about the whole situation. And if the boy is reading this, you could just email me and tell me what you feel :) (again though, I hold the right to deny this)