Advice PLease

OK so the epidemeologist emailed today...hmm its only been like 2-3 weeks since the last email and a month since our date... His email said:


Scott,

Thanks for the heads up, and thanks for the graduation congrats, and thanks for the invite to your student association's happy hour (!!!). The past couple of weeks have been hectic as all get out, so I thought I'd touch base and say that, no, I've not died. Still around, just more bookworm-y than usual lately.

Everything going well, I hope?

Keep in touch (you're better at it than I am),

Any interpretation on what that means? (I've got my thought, but will wait for consensus before I post that). How should I respond? The three options so far are: 1. forgive and invite him out again because he is being genuine in this note and I should give him yet another chance. 2. ignore him, delete it, and not respond again based on his schmuckiness that he already knows he's a schmuck and i think he's a schmuck. or 3. respond. Dear Douche-bag: "if you want to be friends, that's fine, but its clear you're just not that into me so we don't need to pretend to flirt or that there will be another date. Best of luck with epidemeology and have a good weekend

Your thoughts?

Weekend of Debauchery

So this weekend, since I am physically better, I had my weekend of debauchery that was for originally planned for a week ago and yes, it was quite debaucherous... Like the girl in my program who read my palm today and told me that "I have a lot of lovers," I believe this weekend proved that very fact (note: I am a lady and will not be posting the graphic details).

Friday night, I went to the Nats game. Had a good time. No huge stories to report except the caloric intake in a bag of Cracker Jacks is ridiculously high. Thank god I made Coobs eat half the bag.

Saturday, I went to see X-men with Coobs and M&M. Then we ate at Fuddruckers (sadly without Gaymat). It was a decent movie though, even with all the problems in the movie that they didn't wrap up at the end. There were a half dozen queens in front of us too. I am glad that there are gay nerds throughout all of life. And i feel even more justified about the paper I wrote last semester about gay development in X-Men characters... only in higher education could I get away with a paper like that:)
That night, I went to a party with the Mean Girls/ Gay Mafia. I flirted more with c azer... which I do way too much knowing it will never develop and god help me if it did. After we left the party, he and I had a final drink at Cobalt, then I headed home shortly thereafter.

Sunday I drank pretty much the whole day. After arriving late to brunch (a lady never tells, but we'll just say I was in the middle of someone and couldn't get out right away), I drank until 4, then slept for two hours, only to go back out to JR's with the group. Then left that group at 930pm to meet Triple X and Mrs. Triple X for beers on their side of town... Mental note: Don't walk half way across town with as humid as it is here... I was dripping sweat from pores I didn't know existed.

Monday: Quiet day of recovery. Lunched with Ruthie, Worked on homework and the such...

WHy does next weekend have to be so far away?!?!?!?!?!?

i'm baaaaack!!!!

So last Wednesday I took off of work to study for my big test, which was last Monday. And moments after leaving the office I got sick (which I'm still kind of fighting off). So I didnt study nearly as much as I had wanted to. But there were a few study sessions with Ruthie. Friday the big test came and went without much fanfare, I was just way glad to be done with it. Afterwards, Ruthie and I chugged a can of Hennekin in the school's men's room... It feels so great to be in this de-facto fraternity I joined.... when does all the gay sex start?

After the test we went to McFaddens and gaymat showed up. What a sweetheart he really is. I'm really trying hard to find him a lady, so if any of you know a lady (sorry, i mean a biological female) that would be willing to meet a guy named gaymat then let me know. I started to crash there, but managed to make it to Halo with Ruthie and M&M's. But I got kind of moody and was really feeling the Halo attitude for the first time. So what did I do... pushed Ruthie towards a boy and made a bee line for the door. Slept the rest of the weekend.

Saw Davinci code.. not bad... stupid protesters... don't they have young children to molest? Sadly, the albino protesters were not there... I would actually support their protest of the movie.

Back to work.. busy as hell.. Summer classes have started.. busy as hell... I passed my test :) Yay me.

My weekend of debauchery is coming up this weekend so i hope for stories.

Dear Catholic Church:

You know, I really do try to be tolerant of religion and I understand its a taboo subject. I know I can have great conversations about differences in faith and belief, but I have to ask is the Catholic Church that out of touch with reality??????

Fine, you have a bunch of child molestors in your ranks and you blame the gays for it. Even though I expect to see your priests on Dateline going into some home in Ft. Myers florida to have sex with a thirteen year old girl/boy you met on the internet. I understand that you want to point the blame at someone else so even though rape, abuse, and molestation is about power, you try to turn it about sexual orientation.

Fine, you are an archaic organization that won't allow women to join your ranks, even though that would greatly help your retention of members and priests. You do not allow birth control even though the use of condoms would greatly reduce the transmission of HIV/ AIDS in Africa, a continent you seem fine with killing off.

But seriously, the topic of the month with the church is the Da Vinci Code?!?!?!?! You scream and rail because it contains inconsistencies with your faith. Could that be because its a fiction book? Fiction means not fact, much like many parts of your new testament. oh wait... you're right, that's stepping over the line. But let's be honest, you are quite ridiculous that you are fighting so hard against something that is not claiming to be true. And for the record some scholars believe many of the things in The Da Vinci Code, so why aren't you out attacking them, instead of an author who writes creative made up stories?

a wrap up

So I will be taking three days off this week to prepare for the dreaded Quals test in my program. With that said, this will probably be my only post this week and will probably not write more until Tuesday when I regain my sobriety. So this post will be a jumbled discussion of everything on my mind as of late.

School: I go through spurts of "I'm going to fail!" and "I have nothing to worry about." on a regular basis for the past weekend. I feel good now that I've really started hard-core studying for this test, but I am still a bit nervous. I just wish Friday was over and I no longer needed to worry about all of this. I am glad that Ruthie Sugah Brown is in it with me and I think I'd be totally lost without her support and guidance in all this. Its good to have a cheerleader as you move through this program.

He's Just Not that Into You: So last week, I wrote about what I thought was a good date and then the boy never emailed. Well, I had to actually email him about work stuff and he responded to that on saturday thanking me for all of that info and then threw in this line:

I had fun when we went out, too, and we can repeat it anytime. Unfortunately I spent most of last weekend through now with a horrible cold (I hope that's what it is) and have been lying low. When I'm better, though, I'm game for anything.

Which brings me to this: Is it that hard for him to email me during the week when he's sick to say he had a good time, when I knew damn well he was on the computer at some point for myspace updates... i'm just sayin' i'm good at internet stalking. A few people have said give him the benefit of the doubt on this, but it seems so much clearer in the whole "He's just not that into you" theme. If he was interested in me he would've emailed a lot sooner because its not that hard to email...So I solved the problem by sending an email that said "Hope you feel better." and that was it.

Rollins: There is an alumni event tomorrow that I am on the committee for. very exciting. I do miss the days of being a student and nothing other than a student. It will be good to catch up with my friends that I haven't seen in about a year.

JObs: THere is the possibility of a new job on the horizon so keep your fingers crossed for me. It would be an incredible opportunity to get a nice title promotion. Will keep you all updated on that.

these are the boys that I remember

Before I begin this post, its clear that I say I am very proud of myself for finally putting myself back out in the dating world. And how this ended hasn't upset me or made me angry, but just a sociological curiosity.

A week ago yesterday I went on a date with an epidemiologist. The date went well as far as I could tell. No lulls in the conversation, we hugged at the end of the night, there was talk of hanging out again. I waited two days before emailing and said i had a good time and would like to hang out again... then nothing. Silence. As of now, the day that I'm officially writing it off, no response at all. So it brings me to these questions:

When boys don't contact you afterwards, when they should at least have the courtesy to write and say thanks but no thanks, is it because they have no balls to handle confrontation like that? Or does it mean they knew from the beginning that it wasn't going to work out and they decided to play mindgames and make it seem like it was going well?

Oh well, maybe the next boy will turn out better.

Now serving number 47. Now serving number 47 :)

soo little time and soo much to say

You know those days where you're so busy you don't get a moment to breathe without work creeping up on you. That's how I have felt for the last week and probably will feel for the next week and a half to be honest and it will continue for the next week to the rest of my life. But that doesn't mean exciting things aren't happening as of late with me.

On the academic front: I have written the rough draft to my case study. I have even got some reviews back already so I can start the long road of revisions ahead of me. Yay!!!! The test is only 10 days away, so yes I am panicking.

On the personal front: The drought is over!!!!!! I have started to date again. The date occured last Thursday and he's a student at the school I work/go to. He is in a masters program studying epidemiology which seems incredibly lofty. But after a two week negotiation of what and when and where, we went. I met him near where his schooling occurs and we metroed to the downtown area where the theater that we were seeing the movie at was occuring. We had a beer at ESPN Zone (those straight boys have really screwed with my mental state-- to think of bringing a gay date to ESPN Zone.... but they at least have large beers). Then we went to the movie, Brick who had the kid from Third Rock From the Sun and the pregnant woman from Lost. Good movie. THen afterwards we did dinner at Rosa Mexicano. I had a really good time with him and there were never lulls in the conversation. However, at this time, I've not heard back from him.hmmmmmm. And I know that its much too early to read anythign into how it will go.

I also met another boy Sunday night off a not so ladylike website. Nothing inappropriate happened, but I don't think I'll see him again. ehhhh he was just kind of wierd.

And I gave my number to a third boy yesterday on my day off who has called and texted multiple times. Not sure after talking to him I see if developing that much, but we'll see.

So yes, I'm dating again!!!! Gaymat better watch out.

A bothersome political thought...

Recently, Virginia Senator George Allen, a possible 2008 contender for the presidency, claimed that Rush Limbaugh, among others, had the pulse of the American people. Well then I ask this? Do the American people (to be interpreted as the middle, red states) really feel that drugs should be abused? Well people of Kansas, the Dakotas, and Nebraska?????? Speak up? or rather, just vote again for the same people who disenfranchise you over and over as they whip you up into a heated culture war that you can't win.

Maybe, we lost the drug war, when the people who should be legislating put on pedestals those people who are abusing drugs?

Jodi's Birthday

Last Friday, I went to Jodi's all you can drink top shelf alcohol for $20 booze a thon at 1223 for her birthday. It was a good time. M&M was there, as was Andriano and T-fab. At 9, the party was ending because they decided to start charging for alcohol again and so we all started planning to go to dinner together. Also around this point we met two guys. Both "straight". One was engaged and the other was his best friend. So I see M&M molesting the best friend and mention to the engaged one that he might want to save his friend, which provokes him to go on a tirade to convince me that his friend is gay and tries to give me his number which i do take :) What a whore I am. BUt the guys phone number is under the listing Gay Matt. So I befriend gay matt, who turns out to be a really nice guy and we invite them to dinner. So we're in line and since I have a thing for flirty straight men (see Triple X, see Richard from NASPA, see my first crush Julian Hansen from Denmark, and many more), I tell Gay Matt I will buy him dinner. And I convince the guy at Fuddruckers to put his name on there as "gaymat." So I go pee and while at the urinal I hear "gaymat your food is ready. gaymat your food is ready." HAHAHAHAHHA I laughed so hard. I would've pissed myself had I not already been pissing. So I come back and get to know them some more and decide the engaged guy is kind of an asshole, plus he was so close to trying to have sex with T-Fab that I decided he was kind of gross. But I just adored Gay Matt and told him he should hang out more with our group. And so he gives me permission to stay in touch (not a very straight thing to do). So I texted him the next day saying it was great meeting him and such.. and he actually responded. I think i'm going to invite him to the next big happy hour to see if i can seduce him :) Maybe the pressure is off Triple X now huh?